I was being an idiot - the original row was about 'warnings' getiing muddled up with 'pairing' information. Someone did not like a specific pairing and said so.
That and there is a biiiiiggg kerfuffle about misoginy (sp!) regarding female characters. Which I still would like to talk about but... one kerfuffle a year is more than enough for me - kathanx!

As for the connection - the other home one is okay, for now, but my one is not. BT and I will have to have *words*!